Misty Women: Their Story

Call for articles from Misty Women for New Book.

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Misty Wives and Daughters, 2015 Reunion

The stories of the men who fought our nation’s wars have been widely catalogued; their actions in combat, their sacrifices, their terrible wounds, torture and imprisonment, both physical and mental.

But, there are more chapters to the story: that of the wives and families who supported them.
This is our attempt to tell the stories of those who waited, worried and cried through the eyes of a small group of special women married to special men, the F-100 Misty fighter pilots, the Fast Forward Air Controllers (FACs) of the Vietnam War.

We invite you, Misty wives, daughters or sisters to share your Misty story that you have been retelling just like it happened last summer. You really can write your own story that illuminates those period of your love and life dedicated to those men who fight courageously for our freedom.


Please contact me with your stories and  your ideas.


Please send all responses to:  jenihalimun77@gmail.com


May 2, 2016

TO: ​​ Misty Wives, sisters and daughters



Dear Special Friends,​​ 


A proposal has been made to Jeni​​ Halimun (Misty George Buchkowski)​​ and me, Jackie L. Douglass (Misty Bill Douglass),​​ regarding a writing project involving each of you. ​​ In the spirit of the MISTY book it has been suggested that the wives of those story-tellers offer their first person stories. ​​ For certain at this time is that your input is all that will make this book a reality. ​​ Don Shepperd has been pivotal in his inspiration and instruction for the printed outcome of this project.​​ 

It matters not that you were married to your pilot spouse during his combat service days. ​​ Those characteristics that​​ sustained his​​ Warrior personality​​ is what guided him​​ to that arena and propelled his​​ successes beyond its confines. ​​ Among those characteristics are leadership, conviction, intelligence, discernment, loyalty, commitment,​​ self-sacrifice,​​ and unrelenting passion for the task at hand.​​ We, their spouses​​ and life partners,​​ have been uniquely influenced by their​​ exercise of such​​ characteristics. Whether as the combat pilot wife or one who was irreversibly drawn to the essence of The Man,​​ our​​ histories​​ are​​ written within the experience of our​​ warrior-hero-husbands. ​​ 


Jeni and I​​ believe there is value in the stories​​ of your personal histories as they relate​​ to the scripts and roles played on the military family stage.​​ ​​ The​​ value​​ of your story with the Warrior-Hero personality persists, as well,​​ in​​ your life with him​​ beyond the boundaries of​​ combat duty and​​ the military arena. ​​ This book​​ will be your own stories, written in your own words and​​ grounded in​​ the relationships​​ spawned by​​ attraction to amazing men with whom​​ we chose to travel life’s journey.

Please do not be daunted by a​​ request to “write your story.”​​ ​​ The Misty book​​ itself​​ is​​ about​​ EVENTS​​ written in a third-person voice with only occasional first person references. ​​ The nature of our Wives’ book may prove to be an imposing task because of its more first-person narrative. FEELINGS will​​ characteristically find their​​ way into​​ a military wife’s story about her life with her Warrior-Hero husband. My experience with military wives and military families in general​​ attests​​ to the difficulty​​ and resistance that they have​​ revealing authentic feelings.  ​​​​ 

Call on your​​ children​​ as an​​ additional​​ resource both as an interviewer and as one who could record and transcribe your recollections.​​ ​​ They would find great value in your memories. ​​ Having them interview you would complement your recall. ​​ It would also offer discovery for them about the​​ identity of this Mother-Wife for​​ whom they have often held awesome regard.

For those of us whose​​ Warrior-Heroes have passed, “Memories may slip out of our eyes and roll down our cheeks.” …..and then we write………. It is a delicious journey down memory lane.​​ 

A life story is not a requirement for these chapters.​​ Remembrances of one particular event; a shared favorite anecdote; one​​ incident revealing a particular characteristic of your marriage or of the personality​​ that​​ most defines your​​ life partner​​ are examples of short writings that will contribute to the value of this book.​​ 

Here are some topics​​ (pick and choose at will)​​ to jump-start your thinking and storytelling:​​ (Rephrase the tense in​​ topics to fit your circumstance.)

Why were you first attracted to each other?​​ Characteristics of each…..

How were you alike? Different? ​​ What steps led to marriage?​​ Events of​​  ​​ 

Wedding; honeymoon? ​​ Major challenges of starting life together?

 ​​ How did you see your marriage role? What were adjustments you made;​​  what do wish you had done differently?​​ 

Recall some of the best times you had together. ​​ One of the best laughs.

In what ways did you support each other? What ways did you meet your​​  individual needs?

Describe your most significant time/s together

What memories of being together do​​ you like to relive?

What are you thankful for about your spouse? ​​ What is spouse thankful​​ for​​  about you?

What would you say you have given your spouse?

What has your spouse​​ given​​ you?

The things I want to​​ but haven’t said​​ to my spouse; or wish I had said​​ but​​  didn’t

What I admire/d the most; ​​ 

I​​ now understand what you meant or what you did about a certain thing.

Something that has changed about me because of spouse.

My favorite time of year with spouse​​ is/was.

I loved it when spouse​​ said to me, “ ?​​ 

That special something of your spouse that you will always keep.  ​​ ​​ ​​​​ 

(Some of these topics are excerpts from the book: ​​ Legacy: a Step-by-Step Guide to Writing Personal History; Linda​​ Spence; Swallow Press, Athens, OH;​​ 1997. (ISBN 0-8040-1002-1)

The length of your story​​ is in the range of​​ 5-15 pages, single spaced, 12 pt. type.


Jeni and I look forward to hearing of your affirmative interest​​ and reading your contributions.​​ We are available by phone for consultation throughout the birth and life of this project. ​​ Please join us for a heartfelt journey. ​​ 


    Contact us at:

Jeni Halimun​​   ​​ 678-315-3172 ​​ ​​​​ jenihalimun77@gmail.com

Jackie L. Douglass  ​​ 719-330-6119​​ ​​ (Cell) ​​​​ jackerose1712@gmail.com